LOVE — There’s Nothing You Can Do About It.

Regardless on how it started, who is it with, who you are hurting in the process — it is still LOVE and there is nothing you can do about it.

Have you been cheated on? Did your ex fell in love with his new girlfriend when he was still with you? Did you ever fall in love with someone who is married? 

It sucks right? 

Is it stupid? Is it wrong? Fuck yeah and it hurts!

But that doesn’t mean that what they have isn’t love. That doesn’t mean that what you had isn’t true. We just got to accept the fact that that love is not for us anymore (cause sometimes timing is just a bitch). You can never dicate what’s right and what’s wrong when you talk about love. It is just how it is –regardless who you are with, who you hurt, how you started and ended it.

With all these Brad and Angelina split with Jennifer Anniston memes on the internet, I can’t help but put my thoughts into this. I would have rejoiced if my ex was cheated by his new girlfriend but the thing is it would only make me feel better for a while and I would not even be the better person for feeling happy about it.

Love really has its mysteriouly ridiculous ways. Stupid enough to make us addicted to the feeling and we just need to accept that fact.

The World Didn’t Fuck You

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I just saw this post on facebook and people keep on sharing it.

I don’t want to UNFUCK MYSELF because the world didn’t fuck me.

To boost our self-esteem, sometimes we are used to blaming everyone else. What did the world ever do to you? We keep on blaming other people for our mistakes, bashing others for unresolved problems, etc. Aren’t you tired?

See we build our own monsters. THE WORLD IS BEAUTIFUL AS IT IS. Why see it the other way around? WE WERE MADE BY THE IMAGE AND LIKENESS OF OUR FATHER AND THAT IS (FUCKING) BEAUTIFUL. Why do we keep on looking for mistakes and imperfections?

It’s a matter of how we see things. Don’t let it eat the good parts of you. Even if the world was really fucked up and you think you were fucked by the craziness of this world…

1. You are not miserable.
2. You are not a failure.
3. Nobody can steal your light away from you.

Nobody can fuck you unless you let them to. I hope you will always remember that.

Make Use Of What You Have

I don’t understand why people aren’t always contented. They always want more. They always want what isn’t there. Well, sometimes it isn’t that bad. Wanting something you don’t have leads you to making your goals and building dreams. But some people… ugh. Some people!

Some people can’t function without the thing that they don’t have. Like for example, you have a typical guitar and you’re too lazy to practice because it would be so much better if you could play with a high end expensive guitar. WHAT KIND OF THINKING IS THAT? How can you improve your skills now? You just sit there and wait for a Martin guitar to fall from thr sky before you can practice? See what I mean?

Another one, if you’re fixing your stuff, organizing papers and you can’t finish just because it would be better if there is a filing cabinet. So there… all your papers scattered unorganized just because there’s no filing cabinet. Ugh. But you can still segregate them, put them into a pile at some part of the room.

Seriously, I met people like these. Those are just a few examples. Those are very bad examples on how to live your life. We can’t have everything. WE CAN’T ALWAYS HAVE WHAT WE WANT BUT WE CAN WORK FOR IT. If you want that expensive guitar, work for it. You have to earn it. Practice hare. You may never know, maybe someone will discover your talent and even sponsor a better guitar.

There’s something better in stored for us in this life but we can’t have them if we don’t work for it. You are in a specific situation because you need to. And if you don’t like where you are, make use of what you have and build better dreams with it.

How Do I Write Again?

Is it really possible that we constantly change? I mean we adapt to different situations but somehow it struck us one way or the other, right?

This I question because somehow I felt that I changed… well I think I do. Sometimes I feel like I am the better me, sometimes I am lost. I haven’t written or posted anything for months except the entry before this. I think I forgot to write. I don’t know what to write. There was a point in my life that there’s just too many thoughts, reflections and realizations everyday. And it just pops out of my head to a point that I needed to write it right away cause I might forget.

Now, I don’t know what to write about. I wanted to blog again but I don’t want to tell a story about my day cause it’s boring. I don’t want to brag about my problems cause it’s not healthy and I’m handling it anyway. I wanted to write about my recent experience on working with a film company here in the Philippines, got to meet movie actors but nah… I wanted to find those random thoughts I used to write about, wisdom I get from every problem, Reflections and positive outlook in life but where is it now?

Have I changed? Or was I just pre occupied? I wanted that part of myself back. I love those posts and I still want to inspire a lot of readers. How cab I be inspired? What do I do?

The Truth About Forgiveness

The truth about forgiveness is that if you forgive someone, it doesn’t mean the following:

1. that they are sorry.
2. that they won’t do it again.
3. that they’ll be better than before.

The thing is that we have to live with that. We can’t control everyone and definitely can’t dictate others what to do cause they have their own lives to live and own decisions to make.

We forgive because it’s the right thing to do. We forgive to make peace with somebody and find peace with ourselves. We forgive so that we could let go and move on. If we hold grudges then we will always be stuck on the same page.

8 Things A Man Can’t Do

I wanted to write for a while now. I wanted to bring back my positive vibes in this blog yet I can’t since I have so much drama in my life recently. I’ve decided, why not some random thought rather than a reflection? Less words can make sense after all. So here is a list of 8 impossible things of which I think a man can’t do:

1. One can never be right all the time.
We make mistakes. We would all be fools if we can’t even see that.

2. One can never know everything.
There are a lot of nerds and geniuses out there who would probably say they know all the facts in their chosen field. But what about the other field? How about skills per se? Also, intelligence isn’t always enough. We need wisdom to back us up. But how do we measure wisdom after all? Would we able to know who is the wisest?

3. One can never always be happy neither does one can never be always sad.
Time. There is a time for everything and feelings are temporary. What we feel today may probably be gone tomorrow.

4. One can never will all the time neither does one can never always lose.
We can’t. Winning isn’t about winning the battle but learning is. Learning is what we gain either if we win or lose. If we keep on winning all the time, then what did we gain… just the title and a little more pride? Life isn’t a contest in the first place and hell no, the world isn’t a battlefield.

4. It is impossible for a person to had never told a single lie in his/her entire life.
Admit it. We lied even the whitest lies they can ever be. Actually, this may be famous to a scenario in which you’re feeling bad, hurt orĀ  depressed and somebody asks if you’re ok and you simply say I’M OK which you know you’re not.

5. One can never always have what he/she wants.
That’s just the way it is. But the main problem is that people always want what they don’t have. Some part of us keep being uncontented on our subconscious minds.

6. One can never find peace without forgiveness.
We can’t let go of something if we keep on holding on to it –just like anger. If we keep being mad at a person or a situation, where is our peace there? We’re always gonna be troubled by that same anger. Forgive and take the poison out of your system may it be anger, hurt, envy and all those eating the good inside you.

7. It is impossible for a person to love without respect.
You just can’t. Love comes with a package and that package has a lot of demands along with it — faith, trust, respect, and so much more than what you can think of right now.

8. One can never win if cheating is his/her process in achieving so.
Cheating is cheating. You can copy someone’s work but in the end, we all know that you may gain all the credit but you gained nothing else. You may possibly know the answer but you don’t know HOW’s and WHY’s behind it.

Take Chances Now

I have a chance to be great and I have the chance now. – Marco Mendoza, Suits 2

I started watching Suits again just to catch up with the latest season. I really don’t know what season I was watching  when I stopped. So what I did is watch it all over again — oh please, I swear I didn’t get bored at all. Gabriel Macht is so awesome and I’d be willing to marry him any time of the day. Lol. I’m stopping my “kilig” moments now.

So then I encountered the line above by a character named Marco Mendoza. I won’t go much further with his story but the line really struck me. He’s right.

We always wait for our chance and be patient that there is a time for our dreams or goals for that matter. But isn’t that everyday is a chance — a chance to be great, to be better than yesterday, to right mistakes, to forgive, to even make a mistake for the first time. It is always a chance to do something about something.

It’s not always up to us, the decisions? Yes, but what do we do when we wait? We sit in a chair and wait for an interesting news to hear? NO. We do our best. We do the best of what we can do and we maximize every bit of it. TOMORROW CAN NOT ALWAYS BE CERTAIN. Why not take a chance today?

Love Is Easy

Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary. Real love is simple, everyday kind of thing. A smile, a hug, an encouragement. Continuous love without effort. –

-MFG

I recently opened an app on facebook. It’s called Message From God. Yes, people make these and somewhat share thoughts and advise to people. Maybe you can say that it is quite similar to WHAT WOULD JESUS DO. Or for non Christians more like a message from a fortune cookie or a horoscope I guess.

So there, the message above is the one I got. It made me reflect and agree to it. LOVE IS EASY.

We make it complicated. We make it hard to understand. We make it unreachable. We make it as if it is a big goal to achieve. But love is here and in everything.

You can get it with a smile, a touch, a tap on the back, a hug or a kiss. Love is a Hi or Hello from a friend or a stranger. Love is a sorry from your enemies. Love is respect for the elders. Love is a passion for your art.

Love is simple and it is not painful if and only if we love selflessly.

The only hindrance of love is to think too much of ourselves — to love and to ask for something in return, to love but to set limits, to love but don’t share happiness.

Talking To Strangers

I am that person who talks to random strangers I meet in my every day — sales ladies, another customer of the store I am in and cab drivers most especially. I don’t do small talks. I don’t believe in such. I talk to them because I wanted to talk to them and not just because I need to. If I ask them about how their day was, I am interested to know about it — not fake it.

I talk to strangers especially cab drivers. I spend at least a quarter of my day with them and at least an eighth of their day with me. Might as well, waste it right? I just love the fact that I have someone to talk to. I go to different places a day, back and fort, and I can’t keep thinking about work during my travel time. I guess it’s the same thing to them. Probably, a bit more boring than mine because they spend their time on the road more like (well, really) a responsibility and not for leisure.

Talking. It’s a release of whatever emotions or just anything you have inside you. Like for me, if I keep thinking of my to-do list during my me-time, I would blow up like a nuclear bomb. So, I talk to people. Random ones.

Friends can’t always be there physically for you. We all have our own whereabouts and we can’t commit to everything at the same time.

Having a conversation to a lot of strangers are really healthy. Well at least, for me. Talking to them is like having an unlimited access to a wide range of experiences, opinions and advice. You ought to learn different perspectives on life, family, friends, love, work, school, music and a whole lot more.

It’s not just really about the talking but also the listening part. Isn’t nice to know that someone listens to small things that happened to you during your day? The greatest part is, this conversation happens in both ways — in full attention or not, you gained a new thought, noticed a different point of view and learned a new dimension in some itsy bitsy parts of life.